What is wrong with our 'Ammavans & Ammayees'?


	Aunty Ji	by Shivangi Sah

Its a marriage function. Random people here and there and this one guy with his wife approaches me and asks "Njnagaleyokke ormayundo mone?"(Do you remember us, son?). I nod vaguely, thinking who the duck is he? I know, we have all been there. That is why we happen to dodge family functions right?

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The "ammavan-ammayee"(Uncle and Aunty) memes have been wildly popular among teenagers nowadays because most of us could relate to them. We all had that one ammavan and ammayee in some part of our life and we continue to encounter them. The questions vary according to situations.

"Exam engane unday mone?" (How were your exams, son?) to some highschool kid
"Joli onnum aayille mone?" (Didn't you got employed, son?) to some guy who got out of college
"Kalyanam onnum aayille mole?" (When are you getting married, girl?) to some girl who is nearly 21
"Vishesham onnum aayille makkale" (Can we expect a kid soon, lads?) to some couple who got married recently

and the list goes on. Its the Indian culture that tortures us. We happen to hate those wicked questions and the people who ask it. What we only could do was smile it off with a crude grudge. We labelled them in the meme world as the "ammavans and ammayees" (Uncles and Aunts) because they were mostly middle-aged people. The people who were disturbingly interested in the life of other people, who gives 'unsahikkable' advice, who were sometimes utter failures when it came to their own life. Sometimes we tried to understand them because its a life they were brought up. Sometimes they were just making small talk or sometimes they were just genuinely giving good advice. We respect them. But the other people were not so genuine. What was going on with them? Is something wrong with us too?

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Firstly, for us, teenage is a time with struggles. Most of us are confused. You are told a child but expected to act mature. Schools and colleges are not very much helpful either. If not, you are a "padippi" (geek), you are kind of doomed. College is no different either. We are forced to study and get a white-collar job that satisfies society, which we later end up hating. Then again we are asked to"settle down", making a family. Life is going in a pace that we struggle to catch up with. Enjoying life feels like a dream when the reality is built upon things that are obscure.

On the other hand, we have these people who judge us out of nowhere. A kid who gets tortured at school is asked "Exam engane unday mone?". A guy who is damned by the college education is asked "Joli onnum aayille mone?". A girl who was let down to follow her dreams is asked "Kalyanam onnum aayille mole?". A couple who needed time to understand each other than having kids were asked "Vishesham onnum aayille makkale". I think that made us angry. We are asked to succumb to the norms that society built for them.

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But wait, we are fighting our way out of that. I think the negative spark between us and them is because we are a generation that is changing. We BREAK THE STEREOTYPES! Our generation is punching those stigmas in the face. We know exams don't define education, we don't care if someone gets a job in his late 30's, if a girl chooses to marry or not, or if someone is having kids or not. We like to believe in the better. Or do we? Well, the question is yours to ask yourself. Are you an "ammavan and ammayee" of the next generation?

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